Blogmas 2015 #15 - Coming to terms

As you probably see from the title nothing about this post is remotely festive or wintery,so sorry if you came here for a bit of festiveness,I promise it will be back tomorrow.It's actually quite a personal post about something that I have becoming to terms with recently,I didn't want to really include it blogmas,but I think it's something important that I need to talk about,as others may be going through something similar,so I hope this helps.

As you may know not too long ago my mum was in hospital for reasons that I am not going to go into too much detail with,but things were looking horrible that night and due to my anxiety I had a panic attack which did not help the whole situation,I was blaming myself for everything that happened,though we know now that it was nobody's fault and it was something genetic that couldn't of been prevented.

Due to what happened in hospital my mum now has high blood pressure,which has led to her being put on tablets for life,this has made her feel extremely bad about herself - which upsets me and my dad because my mum is normally a bubbly happy person and it's just so horrible for her to be having to go through it,as she has had to tackle other health problems in the past and was just recovering from a few operations.

But,a few weeks after the whole thing,I think we are all feeling a lot better about the situation and we have started to come to terms with it because it is just going to be a part of our life now and we can't change that,but one thing is for sure we are not going to let it change our lives.

If you are going through something similar I have some advice to help you to come to terms and just to feel a little better about what is happening.

Look at the positives

Focus on all of the positives,it could of been a lot worse.My mum is still ok and that is the main thing,nothing about her has changed.

Accept it

This can be hard at first and it may take a little bit of time,but it's something that has happened and nobody can change that,but you should definitely not let it change your life,still do everything you want and you like.

Give yourself time

It may take a little bit of time to accept what has happened - but,we all have different a speed of accepting and coming to terms with things,just go at your own pace, you will get there eventually.

Take some time for yourself

You might need some time on your own or with your close friends or/and family,just to talk about it and think things over.

Ask for support

It can be hard and quite upsetting after an event like this,but sometimes the best thing it just to ask for help from somebody you trust because talk about it can help so much.

I am so sorry if anybody is going through something like this I know it can be hard.

I am also sorry about this not being christmassy,but it is an important subject and I just needed to talk about what had been happening lately

Sophie Jane