Dealing with bullies

As you can probably tell by the title this is a different kind of post,it's a more personal one and you are going to see a lot more of these kinds of posts in the future.I started this blog over half a year ago (which seems crazy!) because I was going through a pretty rough time (which i'm not going to go into detail with in this post) and so I wanted somewhere I could escape and just write what I'm thinking.I have had lots of personal experiences with things like bullying,anxiety and depression,for the whole time that I have been blogging I have kept them locked up and hidden away because I was scared of what people would think,but I realized that I'm not the only one has been through these things and all though my experiences were horrible,I could get something good out of it by helping somebody else,if sharing my experiences means that somebody else benefits from it then it is worth it because I would never ever wish for anybody else to have to go through what I did and if I could help in anyway at all I would.

What I wanted to talk to you all about today was bullying and I wanted to share my views on it and my advice on how to deal with bullies.

From year 2 to year 5 I got bullied every day,it didn't have an affect on me for a while because I was too young to understand what was happening and I just shook it off but as I got older it did start to affect me a lot and I started to dread going into school every day,I would cry before I left and on most days I would throw up with the dread of having to go.I started to lose my confidence fast and I would start to question my looks and ability to do things.I have been affected by bullying for near enough all the time I have been at school,even though the bullying stopped a few years ago it still affects me today,though I am slowly getting better,I still lack the confidence to stand up and talk in front of people and I find it hard to open up to new people,but I do have full confidence in who I am and I have learnt to love every part of me because it is unique and part of who I am and if somebody doesn't like that then who cares I shouldn't be trying to please them.

I feel that there is absolutely no excuse for bullying,I always try to be nice to people and I never say anything mean because I know the affect it can have on them and there is just no need to be horrible and rude.I don't know what goes through people's minds to make them think that their horrible comments aren't affecting anyone.Bullying can bring people down and make them feel so low,there is no need for it.At the end would it really make you feel better? Bringing other people down just to make you feel good or to try and impress somebody.

I am against being mean to someone because nobody deserves it,But I am especially against people being mean for the 'fun of it or because they got dared to do it by their friends,think about it would you really want friends like that? If they do it to that person what is going to stop them doing it to you? You have no idea what people are going through and bullying them is going to make it worse.You don't know how your words have affected somebody and what they might do to themselves because of it,you could of prevented it by just thinking about it before you spoke,and that's the thing bullying and dragging people down can be so easily prevented if people just think before they speak,if they think if "someone said this to me how would I feel?" and "how could this affect this person?",if what you have to say isn't nice then don't say it! That is all people have to remember.

My advice to people going through bullying or hate is to tell somebody what you're going through,I wish I had done this a lot sooner,it can be scary to let somebody know how your feeling,but I promise you it's for the best, people do want to help you and as soon as I told somebody they worked with me to get me out of the situation.It doesn't matter who you tell as long as you can trust them and know that they can help then it doesn't matter who it is,you could tell a teacher,parents,close friend,family member etc,the important thing is just to tell someone.

I promise you that these people being mean to you are just horrible people and they will be gone eventually and the problem will be gone,just have confidence in who you are and don't care about them because you shouldn't have to prove yourself to anybody,you are one of a kind and an amazing human being,you have a million and one reasons to be here,never ever forget that.I love each and everyone of you reading this.

I hope you all liked this post and I hope that it helped somebody,I do truly hope that none of you ever have to go through what I did.If you feel comfortable to you are welcome to leave your personal experiences and how you have dealt with bullies,and if you would just like to have somebody to talk to about anything then you can email me,send me a twitter message or leave a comment,I will always be happy to talk to you!

Just remember that I am here for you